Our experience, understanding, and perspective on what is love differ from person to person. What I want to drive home is even if we can define and experience love in different ways, the intention and concept of love are to bring joy, contentment, happiness, and peace of mind.
While the past might influence your perspective on love today, you must constantly remind yourself that as much as you have no power and control over the past and the future, they too do not have power and control over you. The present is full of possibilities and can change to suit future possibilities. Let us love presently like there was no past pain and give love all we have in honour of our future.